from hell some say..haha, we have heard all kinda versions to where the in-laws belong. But, some things they never tell you as to why in-laws can be such a pain in the erm, let's settle for neck here shall we?
Today i shall let you listen, in my acoustic prose of my loves and loathes for my in-laws...(you know, it's nice to be able to wade in my life, immerse my arms in it, touch it, and now try sharing it with you guys...ahh, too sensitive of a subject, but i'll try!)
i remembered, when i was first married to the family, i was slowly reduced to a morose and monosyllabic person.Adapting to being away from my family had spiralled my life into an abysmal misery.i cried most nights, i called my mom every day and then i cried again...damn, i was such a fuckwit. But i was allowed to be.
Because....
(now we're about to enter reason number one, which is also the utmost reason as to why some think that they do have in-laws that are really from hell!)
1)MY FAMILY IS SO DIFFERENT FROM THEM.LIKE TOTALLY!(ok, i exaggerated a lil there.)
find shadows of yourself here? there's no denial, we human tends to compare.And no matter how we did it, we would always end up giving the trophy to our own family!And i do have many reasons for doing so, but hey, in-laws may read, later kena outcast..
I stayed with my in-laws for a good one year before we finally got ourselves a place.And you thought that must be such a relief for me, but that's where you're wrong.What do you know, the husband got ourselves a place which was just a flat away!
2)MY HUSBAND IS THEIR MOST BELOVED SON.
so now you get a clearer picture as to why we moved so close to one another eh.
of course i was upset in the beginning, but it wasn't as bad as i thought, coz i get to know my in-laws better afterwards.But at the same time too, i wasn't feeling better for myself.I felt so distance away from being myself.I lost ME.i missed being ME.And i felt so much worst when the husband was constantly not on my side.If Lorena had 'bobbitted' her husband for not giving her much needed orgasm, i could have 'bobbitt' my husband for being their beloved son!
3)MY LIFE WAS CHOREOGRAPHED AND SCRIPTED.
it all began since i had my twins.I was told to dress up like a mother should.which in another word means, transforming my wardrobe to look like it belonged to a 40 year old hag! i looked like one too..i was not allowed to dye my hair, polish my nails yada, yada.
ahhh, those days, pleasing the in-laws had sucked Marlina away from the fun zone.But did they have to be this extreme? couldn't god settle for just mildly awful?...i wondered.I do have my life too you know.6
4)MY LIFE.MY HOUSE.MY KIDS....MY RULES!
have you ever been criticized on your nurturing technics towards your little ones? or how your home decor should or should not be? unless you're married to an orphan, you should have gone through this. i accept and understand that one can't be good at everything, and i am tragically unskilled in some important areas..but it would have been nice if they could have spared the criticisms and and try to support you on the rules and regulations that you have set for your kiddos. (ei; i do not allow my kids to drink sodas, dear in-laws!!, and yes, i still like my home decor in dark to neutral range, dear in-laws !!).
Today, after eight years in the family, we learnt each other well.Along the way, i decided enough is enough.i figured, in order for my in-laws to know me better is for me to be ME...the one with colored hair and nails, the one with a little cleavage showing, the one that speaks her minds out.On top of it all, the one that loves their son as much, the one that will be running to them for advices and comforts and the one that adores them terribly.
And if you think, going against their dislikes was disrespectful on my behalf...you're wrong again. Both my parents-in-law have since dyed their hair..and my mom-in-law was once even cool enough to pick a low cut blouse for me. ;P
So, whoever says in-laws are from hell?..well, sometimes they can be, no doubt about that, yo!
